You’ve reached the top of the pyramid, good job! This section is both the culmination and foundation of the work we do as Certified Life Strategy Coaches. As you saw in the Hemispheric Levels Template and the Spheres Chart with Identity in the middle, discovering and updating what images the unconscious “thinks” about who we are as an individual either supports our self-esteem, or not. This section will focus on defining your sense of self, who you are in the world and inside of your own mind. We want the internal image of self in both hemispheres to be current and accurate in portraying who we truly are in the present moment. Then we decide where we want to develop new skills, understanding, update old beliefs, and from here we can develop our mission and passion for being.
Reframing is a valuable linguistic tool to gently re-direct, install or suggest other ways to look at a situation, event, or person – even within ourselves. It’s a way of creating new images by giving our client another perspective when they are “stuck” in life. Presuppositions that are useful filters are:
- Everything is useful in some context. – Keeps us from prejudice; opens up our box of thinking.
- There is no failure, only feedback – supports our learning from the past and moving forward with more awareness and confidence.
- Choice is better than no Choice – Allows for creativity and new and unfamiliar experiences to thrive.
- Behind every thought, feeling or behavior there is a positive intention – and the behavior is most likely not getting us what we actually want.
Reframes are the basis for most humor, putting a new twist on the meaning or changing the context of the interaction. As a Certified Life Strategies Coach and effective communicator, this is an invaluable tool to influence change subtlety and powerfully. It open us the thinking about boundaries or previously imposed limitations of a problem. Often is the right hemisphere that can see a situation from a new perspective and has the quick-witted response.
Value Level Reframing with Softeners:
These are reframes delivered at the Value Level on the Hemispheric Levels of Experience Chart. These reframes increase the intensity to the value or identity level and are the most useful in the Self-Image processes that are following. Value reframes are ones that often create an “A-ha!” experience. Softeners are the language we use to deliver the reframe that allow the client to accept the new possibility through curiosity, choice and possibility. It is a way of giving options without giving advice. Example: “So, I’m curious what if X really means Y?” “I’m curious…” is the softener.
In many kinds of consulting, cheerleading, and coaching, well-meaning advice often is given to a client who wants change in their life to “Just do it!” Results are often sporadic, temporary and frustrating. Remember back to earlier in this course where we talked about the importance of influencing all Elements of a System: States of Being, Strategies of Thinking, and Behaviors. Hemispheric Integration offers the technology and understanding for answering the question, “Just How?”
RePowering self to be who you are authentically means clearing the mind clutter from old patterns of thinking and behaving that no longer serve us. Rather than being influenced and controlled from the Outside – in, RePowering self is to make a shift in thinking and behavior where the center if power and choice to be who we are comes from the Inside – Out.
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