Discovering and updating what images the unconscious “thinks” about who we are as an individual either supports our self-esteem or it does not.
As Life Coaches, we want our clients’ internal image of self in both hemispheres to be current and accurate in portraying who they truly are in the present moment.
Then we decide where we want to develop new skills, understanding, update old beliefs, and from here we can develop our mission and passion for being.
Reframing is a valuable linguistic tool to gently redirect, install or suggest other ways to look at a situation, event, or person – even within ourselves.
It’s a way of creating new images by giving our client another perspective when they are “stuck” in life. Presuppositions that are useful filters are:
- Everything is useful in some context. – Keeps us from prejudice; opens up our box of thinking.
- There is no failure, only feedback – supports our learning from the past and moving forward with more awareness and confidence.
- Choice is better than no Choice – Allows for creativity and new and unfamiliar experiences to thrive.
- Behind every thought, feeling or behavior there is a positive intention – and the behavior is most likely not getting us what we actually want. Reframes are the basis for most humor, putting a new twist on the meaning or changing the context of the interaction.
As a Certifed Life Strategies Coach and effective communicator, this is an invaluable tool to influence change subtlety and powerfully.
It opens us the thinking about boundaries or previously imposed limitations of a problem. Often is the right hemisphere that can see a situation from a new perspective and has the quick-witted response.
Value Level Reframing with Softeners:
These are reframes delivered at the Value Level on the Hemispheric Levels of Experience Chart.
These reframes increase the intensity to the value or identity level and are the most useful in the Self-Image processes that are following. Value reframes are ones that often create an “A-ha!” experience.
Softeners are the language we use to deliver the reframe that allow the client to accept the new possibility through curiosity, choice, and possibility. It is a way of giving options without giving advice. Example: “So, I’m curious what if X really means Y?” “I’m curious…” is the softener.
In many kinds of consulting, cheerleading, and coaching, well-meaning advice often is given to a client who wants change in their life to “Just do it!”
Results are often sporadic, temporary and frustrating. Remember back to earlier in this course where we talked about the importance of influencing all Elements of a System: States of Being, Strategies of Thinking, and Behaviors. Hemispheric Integration offers the technology and understanding for answering the question, “Just How?”
RePowering self to be who you authentically mean clearing the mind clutter from old patterns of thinking and behaving that no longer serve us. Rather than being influenced and controlled from the Outside – in, RePowering self is to make a shift in thinking and behavior where the center if power and choice to be who we are comes from the Inside – Out.
As a CLSC it is another important sorting filter to discover where we might have given our power away, or have been brain-washed by circumstances as if they were true.
There was a client with the presenting challenge of “never having enough time for relationships.” She was in a doctoral program working in the field of science and brain research and was driven to produce, at the expense of her social life and often even her physical health. Her statement was, “What I do, is who I am.” Think about the presuppositions in that statement. If she stops “doing” she ceases to exist. This is the DO → HAVE → BE sequence of thinking.
For example: “If I do it perfectly. I can get their approval. and then I will be OK.” Because this so depends on the opinions of others it doesn’t work in the long term.
We recommend the very powerful and effective sequence of BE → DO → HAVE.
Creating a Compelling Self-Image for a Specific Behavioral Change
One of the major benefits in this program is that we use the structure of how the brain processes information as our basic resource. When we understand and respect how our brain creates results, life is easier, less frustrating and we have the tools to be more proactive in our lives.
The goal is to have such a compelling and congruent image of yourself as a coach in both hemispheres of your brain that it fully supports your actions and plans to move forward in your career and life.
Your Life Coaching Career
If you are passionate about helping people and living a fulfilling life, we can help you achieve your dreams right now. The Life Strategies Coaching Certification Course combines the latest advancements in human potential and neuroscience with proven methods of success used by the world’s most productive people.
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