As a coach, you need to remember one thing above all else.
Don’t “tell” — just ask!
It can be challenging. This is true especially when we come from a training background where were are taught – and programed – to tell clients how and why to do things.
Obviously, coaching is very different. We need to ASK.
When the “problem” appears obvious to us, we want to just tell them how to fix it. This is true especially when we see a repeating pattern in nearly all of our clients about certain issues and challenges.
We must realize that even though the challenges of our clients seem obvious to us, there is always a unique and individual pattern, behavior and experience happening with the person. If we judge and “give advice” instead of listening and asking the right questions, we are not honoring them and doing our part to help them reach their goals.
Your job is to be curious. Ask sincere and thought-provoking questions. Get them to ponder, think and be honest with themselves about the root issue they want to overcome. Don’t rush the answer. Sometimes it will take a moment for them to search their subconscious mind for the answer which is most compelling to them.
That doesn’t mean it’s the only answer. And, in the end, it may not be the best answer. But, you still need to take the time to let them arrive at “AN” answer.
So, even when you feel you know what best for your client, your job is to keep asking questions until the solution reveals itself to your client.
Thanks for reading.
The Spencer Institute Team
PS: If you are not sure which questions to ask, or how to ask them, refer back to your training program videos and/or manual.
PPS: If you are not yet a coach, or want to learn additional coaching methods, review the entire list of certification training program here.