What you read in the title isn’t a typo. There are in fact others that fear the very nature of success that they start self sabotaging.
If you’ve been in the life coaching industry for quite awhile now, you’ve probably met with clients asking you why they end-up having too many foul ups only when they’re on the verge of breakthroughs. During these crucial moments, they tend to become touchy, careless, and they tend to procrastinate on the things that will seal the deal of their success.
These are the common symptoms (among many others) that people with the fear of success often display. And if you’re quite uncertain how to help your customers past through it, then this guide will help you with just that.
Fear of the unknown
One of the key reasons people self sabotage is they are comfortable with where they’re at. Now this doesn’t mean that where they’re at is good or even healthy. But it is one where nothing too unexpected can occur. People get comfortable in their habits and while it may not be great it is safe. The underlying reasons for this is that people fear not knowing. They fear putting themselves out there and not having all the answers. Fear of a failure keeps a lot of people from moving up in their careers and their lives.
How to counter the fear of the unknown
Here’s how you can help. First off be sure to remind them that they’ve made it through hard times before to make it to where they’re at and that its this determination that is leading to greater success. Also bring up the positives that comes with a higher level job. They’ll have a bigger support network, the confidence that their work has been rewarded, healthier finances, a better professional reputation and the continued support of their friends and family.
Fear of changing
A lot of people fear that getting a better job with more money will change them as a person. This can be rather terrifying. There comes a point in everyone’s life where they feel they’ve got it under control and like who they are. When you finally feel you have a good handle on things why would you want to change at all. This is where that fear comes from that having higher status or more money means you now have to act a certain way.
How to counter the fear of change
First and foremost you have to remind them that change isn’t always bad nor is it totally destructive of what came before it. New duties and a new station in life won’t destroy a person they merely add new skills and new talents. Be sure to highlight that they can discover new things about themselves that they never knew before but they greatly enjoy. Lastly above all else stress that they’re still the same person they were before with the same friends and family. When they get home at the end of the day the uniform comes off and they get on with the business of living as they always have.
If there are tips, ideas, and techniques that you’d like to share, please do so in the comments section below. I look forward to hearing from you soon.