Many people tend to believe that, “The grass is greener on the other side”, and they never seem to notice how “green” their grass is until, they no longer have it due to their aspirations of being on the “other side”. There are also those people who are always viewing what the “Joneses” are doing and try to keep up, however never quite get there. This mentality exists in almost every family, even mine. My youngest son was never happy with what he had in front of him, he was always asking why he couldn’t have something different. He viewed everything else better than what he had even if the only difference was having a stripe or not having a stripe. It was only when his friends enjoyed what he had that he wanted it.This mentality for me was quite frustrating.
For years, I would come across these people and wonder why were they so focused on which they didn’t have. The time I took trying to figure out why they could not be content with loving where they were and or appreciating the process of where they were at, made me realize that I too struggled with their same dilemma. I was so focused on why they were always looking across the street, that I didn’t realize I was judging them on their street. Instead, I should have been on my street minding my own business and making sure I was content.
Living your best life, is all about living and focusing on your life/daily experiences as it pertains to you! You can not focus on you if you are worried about others. Worrying about others, prevents you from focusing on your well being. As a Holistic Life Coach, I often notice when individuals tell me that they just want to live their best life and don’t know how to start. Then they start to tell me about what someone else needs to do in their lives to become a better person. No one, I repeat no one, can tell you what to do to be better, although one may help to guide you in your personal process.
The only person that may control and delegate your personal process is you. You are in the pilot seat and the master of your destiny. It is you who knows what you will and wont do. Therefore you must take the time out to get to know who you are. Once someone knows and understands who they are, they are better equipped to make proper decisions for themselves. Each decision looks different depending on who you speak to. However the results are the same, if you are following your heart and living your dream, then you are in the midst of living your best life!
Nashima Harvey, Ed.M is a Mother, Holistic Life Coach, Educational Consultant, Blogger and CEO at THE LITTLE GREEN HOUSE. An educator for over 12 years, Nashima spends her professional time working with individuals and families that need guidance on living their best lives.